We live in a world that moves fast. It pulls us in a million directions all at once. It tells us what we should want. What we should do. What we should think. Tells us who to value and why. What kind of parent we should be. What kind of relationships we should have. What we should look like and how we should dress. What life work is worthy. Society even tries to tell us how much we should value ourselves. How good or bad we should feel about who we are and tells us what to do about our ‘shortcomings’.
It sends us on the goose chase of a lifetime, one where we pursue things, dreams, goals only to achieve them and find them unfulfilling. We have all done it at some point. Perhaps all of our lives. But the thing is that we have to agree to go on this goose chase and that agreement is often made unconsciously.
I know because for years, I attempted to run on that hamster wheel. I literally TRIED to want what I ‘should’ want and wondered what was wrong with me because I didn’t. No matter how I tried, my spirit always whispered (okay, sometimes yelled), relentlessly reminding me that living my life in a way that attempts to conform to someone else’s vision is truly a waste of my time on this planet. What this did for me was put my inner dreamer in the back of a deep, dark closet. Why? Because I found dreams pointless. I could choose something that I ‘wanted’ and work towards, achieve it and it literally felt hollow. Some part of me thought nothing I did made any difference because what I put my time and attention on had no meaning to me. When we a choose a goal without meaning to us, of course achieving it would be hollow.
You have experienced this, too. That’s why you are here. You want a life that is meaningful, one that is fulfilling to you. You want to live by your own inspiration. You want to experience a daily reality, a life that genuinely satisfies you instead of some socially acceptable, though ultimately unfulfilling, illusion of success. You want to consciously know and live in alignment with who you are. I bet you even want it to be easy and, dare I say, fun?
it can be!
“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”
Brene Brown, Braving the Wilderness
Knowing who you really are and living your truth makes everything more meaningful. You give your time to what you value. You live each day in a worthwhile-for-you way. When the world comes banging on your door with its judgments, dramas and shoulds, you are able to take a breath, decide what you want and act (or opt out) in a way that truly reflects you.
Living like this is empowering. Even heady. The truth is that we are always creating our lives. It is our nature and one that we cannot stop. We create what we are committed to, not necessarily what we say we want. Our coaching will get your commitments aligned with what has true meaning to you. Not to society, not to your well-meaning family or friends. To you!
It was my own back and forth journey with who I AM and who I was supposed to me that brought me to coaching over a decade ago. As Joni Mitchell said “I’ve looked at like from both sides now” and I can tell you that discovering who you are is the most powerful use of your time. The connection with our spirit, our essential self becomes our Sherpa in a world of infinite possibilities. In fact, it opens greater possibilities that were unavailable to us before.
My personal experience of reclaiming and embracing who I AM led me to create the” I AM the experiment” coaching program and laser focused my 1:1 coaching with clients.
This is your life. It is yours to live as you want. If you need or want some support in consciously making this your reality…if you really want to live by your own rules and create a life that is deeply meaningful to you, let’s talk. Because you deserve to be beautifully and fully who you are.
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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson